Month: April 2021

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Navigating the dating scene — How can I know if I’m dealing with a good man/woman?

I was recently contacted by a man who said he was using a dating app to meet women, and he told me about a couple of them who he went out with. One, basically asked him to marry her on their second date, and another one spent two to three hours on the first date dumping all her problems on him while drinking a bottle of wine by herself, insulted him for not sharing anything about himself then asked him if he would be interested in having sex with her in her car. (He said no.) He asked me how can he know when he’s met a good woman.

“Good” is a relative term, in my opinion — meaning that each person has their own, different definition. Only you know what is good for you. Like I’m always saying and writing about … You have to go to the kingdom within and know yourself first, then you will know what is best for you. That isn’t something someone outside yourself can tell you. They may be able to point some things out for you, but you are the one who makes the ultimate decision.

The only way you can truly know if someone is a good person is to spend time in their presence. You have to observe their actions over time.

Divine/royal people vs. basic people

Dating is incredibly confusing today. You need more than a map, compass and telescope to get through these waters.

People aren’t always honest about their intentions, and months down the road you can find out that whatever it is that you are looking for, they don’t want it. I really appreciate the ones who say upfront that they aren’t a match. It saves a lot of time, a broken heart and disappointed spirit.

I mentioned Basic Broads/Basic Boys recently in a blog post about not allowing another person to define your worth. These types of people are often envious of anyone who radiates the internal beauty that only comes from doing the intense, internal work that most people are not willing to do themselves. In my experience and observation, they often:

  • Cause drama.
  • Make things unnecessarily difficult on other people.
  • Wait until the last minute to do things.
  • Have no regard for others or making things inconvenient for them.
  • Seek revenge and make things unnecessarily difficult for those they think wronged them.
  • Stalk others online or spread untrue rumors about people.
  • Do not do the right thing in a situation.

Unfortunately, it appears that many people on this planet are basic people wearing paper crowns pretending to be royal and demanding royal treatment. Let me tell you the qualities of a royal person. Royal/divine people:

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  • Operate from high, royal, moral character and integrity.
  • Show love to others, even in the face of rejection.
  • Love themselves first and are equipped to love others fully while setting and enforcing appropriate boundaries.
  • Are grateful for everything that happens to them — good and bad.
  • Learn their lessons in life and take responsibility for their mistakes.
  • Consciously stay in positive energy.
  • Are easy to be with — being in their presence makes others feel good, accepted and worthy.
  • Know who they are and hold themselves to a higher standard.
  • Do not seek revenge or to hurt others — they know every person will get back to them what they put out into the world.

One of my spiritual girlfriends is always calling me “queen” and “empress” — The divine in her recognizes the divine in me, and vice versa. She recently said to me, “He thought you were going to be like all the other women on the dating site. No, you met a Divine Feminine. We’re spread all over. So, you never know where you’re going to meet us.”

Good people are everywhere. I believe it’s easier to recognize royal/divine people when you’re in the same room with them. With today’s technology, people can fool you. An attorney friend of mine used to tell me when I started the online dating thing years ago, “Trust, but verify.” If a person can prove they are who they say they are, then they’re a good person.

What is a quality person?

I go back to the post I wrote recently on How to recognize a quality person. As I mentioned in that post, no one is perfect. However, a quality person will have many or all of these characteristics:

  • Integrity.
  • Ambition.
  • Honesty.
  • Loyalty.
  • Self-sacrifice.
  • Self-control.
  • Accountability.
  • Always forgiving/Asks for forgiveness.
  • Makes things right.
  • Is generous with time, money and energy.
  • Has consistent positive actions and good intentions.

I’m always saying it, but it’s incredibly important to always be the best version of yourself — regardless of how others act. You’ll thank yourself for it. If the saying is true that “Like attracts like,” then by focusing on being a quality person yourself, you will eventually attract quality people.

Get clear on what you really want

I wrote in 2020 about How to get clear on what you want in life. You must know your core values, character, ambition, wants and desires. Once you determine that, you need to look for someone who has similar characteristics. However, you don’t want to be with someone who is exactly like you. It’s important to share things in common like interests, experiences, goals and ambition level, but the most important quality you should look for is shared core values. When those align, everything else is basically insignificant — or the small stiff that you shouldn’t sweat.

As I explained in the post on getting clear about what you really want, I’m big on list making because it combines thinking, writing and reading. These three things are known in Cognitive Psychology to reinforce learning. So, I encourage you to make a list of all the negative things you’ve experienced in past relationships. This man’s list could look something like this:

I don’t want a partner who …

  • Dumps all her problem on me on the first date.
  • Insults me without a good reason.
  • Has so much baggage that she can’t have a friendly conversation without mentioning it.
  • Asks me to get intimate with her after insulting me or the first time she meets me.
  • Is afraid to be alone.
  • Isn’t independent and can’t handle her own problems (or seek professional help to handle them).

Now, you know I don’t believe in focusing on the negative aspects of anything. So, after you make your negative list, I want you to make a positive list based on this one. Turn all the negatives into a positive so that you can easily and clearly recognize the behaviors and treatment you’re seeking. This man’s list could look something like this:

The person I’m seeking in my life will …

  • Be fun to be around and make me feel heard and appreciated.
  • Act interested in my life, and will not intentionally insult me.
  • Have some baggage (like everyone), but will only talk about it in positive terms when asked and focus on solutions and the lessons she’s learned from them.
  • Act like a lady, allow me to be the masculine and pursue her.
  • Not be afraid to be alone.
  • Be independent and can handle her own problems (or seek professional help to handle them).
  • Want to be a partner with me and share a balance of good and bad — not just one or the other.

Once you have your list, then you will be able to easily and quickly identify the person who is best for you. Be honest with yourself when you make it. Realize that no person can meet all your needs, but you can find someone who will fill the majority.

There is not a perfect person on this planet. However, there is someone out there who is perfect for you. You must trust your intuition and discernment when it come to finding a partner. Like my best friend’s friend used to say, “If it don’t feel right, it ain’t right.” Trust your feelings and listen to yourself — you know, deep down inside, what and who is best for you. You’re so powerful. Trust that royal kingdom within you to give you all the answers you need.

Do you have a question about life that you want Senée to answer? Leave it in the comments or email it to PrincessGuide@BecomingPublishing.com.

Senée Seale is a book author, mental health professional and life guide passionate about helping people create positive changes in their lives. Are you ready to start attracting positive things into your life through practicing daily affirmations? Get your free copy of The Princes Guide to Gratitude Affirmations. If you’d like to work directly with Senée, she’s accepting new clients.

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Upcoming events & news: New podcast & videos

I want to start out by saying a huge Texas THANK YOU to all of y’all! My blog subscriber base has really grown in the last few months, and I’m so grateful for each and every one of you! Your likes, comments and encouragement fuel me and help me keep producing content and writing books.

Now, on to the news … If you’re reading this, then I know you like to read. However, if you need something to listen to on the train/bus/car ride to work (if you’re going back into the office) or if you just want something inspirational to listen to while cleaning the house, I have a new podcast called The Princess Guide to Relationships & Recovery podcast. It’s available on Spotify, Google Podcasts and other podcast providers. You can get all the links at ThePrincessGuide.com. Go to the Media page on my website and you can listen to some samples there, also.

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It’s great for friends and family who don’t like to read, too. So, please check it out and share with those you think might get something positive from it.

Also, I’ve had a YouTube channel for 10 years now, but I just started uploading videos regularly there. I make a cameo appearance at the beginning of every episode and you hear my southern accent throughout the entire video … The truth is, I’m not one of those “Look at me! Look at me!” kind of people, but since my content is highly personal and written in my own voice, I just can’t let anyone else do voice overs. So, please check it out. Just search for Senee Seale on YouTube, and you’ll find me there.

Senée Seale is a book author, mental health professional and life guide passionate about helping people create positive changes in their lives and relationships. Are you ready to start attracting positive things into your life through practicing daily affirmations? Get your free copy of The Princes Guide to Gratitude Affirmations. If you’d like to work directly with Senée, she’s accepting new clients.

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Just say no — How to set and enforce boundaries

I often say, “What part of no don’t you understand — the nuh or the oh?” No. It’s a complete sentence all by itself. Merriam-Webster defines the word no as, “[a word] used to express negation, dissent, denial, or refusal.”

It amazes me how some people fight you when you say no to things or requests that you know are not for your highest good. I believe they often do this because you saying no is denying or refusing them to control you or have their way over you that would benefit only them but not benefit you in any way. I say people who act like this have character defects and often have psychological disorders. Saying no is your birthright, and you have a duty to use this word to protect yourself and set healthy boundaries.

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Setting boundaries

In her book Beyond Codependency, Melody Beattie explains, “Boundaries are limits that say: ‘This is how far I shall go. This is what I will or won’t do for you. This is what I won’t tolerate from you.’” While most of her work is focused on recovering from relationships with substance users, much of her advice can be applied to any type of relationship.

“Not only do many of us begin tolerating abnormal, unhealthy and inappropriate behaviors, we take it one step further: we convince ourselves these behaviors are normal and what we deserve,” she wrote. “We may become so familiar with verbal abuse and disrespectful treatment that we don’t even recognize when these things are happening. But deep inside, an important part of us knows. Our selves know and will tell us if we will listen.”

My friend’s friend used to say, “If it don’t feel right, it ain’t right.” She is correct. It’s in these moments where our insides shake, our thinking becomes negative and our stress level is so out of control that we scream at ourselves in an empty room when we know something is definitely wrong or off. I finally got to the point where I listened to my body and noticed that when I felt a heaviness in my chest or lump in my throat, that was a huge sign something was not right for me. These are exactly the moments when we need to use the word no.

I’m not talking about just romantic relationships here. I’m talking about in the workplace when you feel disrespected. I’m talking about in friendships when cruel words are spoken to you — and not spoken in love or concern for you. I’m talking about in online conversations when someone is bullying you to do something you don’t want to do. I’m even talking about in medical situations where you are being told to inject something into your body that you know will have a negative reaction inside of you. In each and every one of these situations, you have the right to just say no. Yes, people may threaten negative consequences on you if you don’t adhere to their intimidation. However, you must ask yourself if you can live with yourself after giving in to such unloving, uncaring, downright selfish demands.

I know what it feels like to be in these situations. I think I’ve experienced them all on every, single level. I had to come to the realization that I am too precious and divine to be treated in such a way — by anyone. Dr. Wayne Dyer wrote it best in Real Magic, “’I will send love, but I will remove myself physically from their presence because I am too divine and significant to be the subject of any abuse.’”

There is always another option to their threats. You just have to believe that, believe in yourself and believe that everything will work out for your highest good when you love yourself first and do what is best for you … They obviously do not have your best interests in mind if they’re forcing their will on you — even if they tell you they do (which is often the case, in my experience).

Beattie lists some examples of healthy boundaries that I’ve slightly modified to apply to most general situations:

  • I will not allow anyone to physically or verbally abuse me.
  • I will not knowingly believe or support lies.
  • I will not rescue people from the consequences of their irresponsible behavior.
  • I will not finance a person’s irresponsible behavior.
  • If you want to act crazy, that’s your business, but you can’t do it in front of me. Either you leave, or I’ll walk away.
  • You can spoil your fun, your day, your life — that’s your business — but I won’t let you spoil my fun, my day or my life.

“Set boundaries, but make sure they’re your boundaries,” she wrote. “The things we’re sick of, can’t stand and make threats about may be clues to some boundaries we need to set. They may also be clues to changes we need to make within ourselves.”

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Put your foot down & expect resistance

Setting boundaries is the easy part, in my experience. Enforcing them can be a completely different thing. Dr. Phil McGraw is known for saying, “You teach people how to treat you.” He wrote in his book Life Strategies that difficult people look for results.

“You may complain or cry or threaten to give them negative results, but if the bottom line is that you reward the behavior by providing a response that the other person values, then that person decides, ‘Hey, this works. I now know how to get what I want.’”

Enforcing your boundaries will not be easy. Dr. Phil warns you to expect the following resistance:

  • Allegations that “You just don’t care anymore.”
  • Emotional extortion that takes the form of threats to leave if you don’t cave in, or they could use agitated threats of suicide.
  • Guilt on your part. “You must steel yourself against being manipulated by it,” he warned.

Dr. Phil said if you think the person you’re dealing with will actually harm himself or herself, then call the police and report it, but do not cave in. Beattie agrees and offers some encouragement.

“People may get angry at us for setting boundaries — they can’t use us anymore,” she wrote. [It’s been my experience that if they have psychological disorders or use substances, they most definitely will … expect it and plan for it.] “They may try to help us feel guilty [they will] so we will remove our boundary and return to the old system of letting then use or abuse you. Don’t feel guilty, and don’t back down. We can stick to our boundaries and enforce them. Be consistent.”

I’ll add — Just say no. Mean it. Enforce it. Walk away, if you need to.

Do you have a question about life that you want Senée to answer? Leave it in the comments or email it to PrincessGuide@BecomingPublishing.com.

Senée Seale is a book author, mental health professional and life guide passionate about helping people create positive changes in their lives and relationships. Are you ready to start attracting positive things into your life through practicing daily affirmations? Get your free copy of The Princes Guide to Gratitude Affirmations. If you’d like to work directly with Senée, she’s accepting new clients.

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How to deal with stress

April is Stress Awareness Month. Are you stressed? My guess is that in some shape or form, you are experiencing stress. We’ve all gone through it in the past year with our lives completely changed overnight with lockdowns, mask wearing and life as we know it completely changed. It’s the first time in my lifetime that I can remember the entire human collective — worldwide — going through the same stressors at the same time. While some areas are beginning to open back up, things are still not normal. That is stress-producing all by itself.

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So, what exactly is stress? Merriam-Webster defines stress as, “a physical, chemical or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension and may be a factor in disease causation.” The International Encyclopedia of the Social & Behavioral Sciences quoted Lazarus and Folkman’s definition of psychological stress as “a particular relationship between the person and the environment that is appraised by the person as taxing or exceeding his or her resources and endangering his or her well-being.”

APA Stress in America survey

The American Psychological Association and The Harris Poll conducted a survey in January 2021 of 2,076 U.S. adults ages 18 and older. The published findings titled Stress in America: January 2021 Stress Snapshot, showed the top two stressors among participants were the “future of our nation” (81%) and “the coronavirus pandemic” (80%). When specifically asked, “Have you felt any of the following ways within the past two weeks,” respondents reported the following:

  • Any [of the feelings listed] (Net)
  • Anxious
  • Sad
  • Angry
  • On edge
  • Like I want to escape
  • Scared
  • Unsafe
  • Like I can’t trust anyone
  • Numb
  • Guilty
  • Other
  • 84%
  • 47%
  • 44%
  • 39%
  • 33%
  • 31%
  • 26%
  • 24%
  • 22%
  • 17%
  • 10%
  • 3%

Interestingly, 16% of those surveyed said they have experienced “None” of these feelings. The survey also found that within the previous month (December 21 2020–January 25, 2021), 26% reported “little to no stress,” 28% “a great deal of stress” and 44% a moderate amount of stress.

In March 2021, the APA also reported that many American adults surveyed have experienced “undesired changes to their weight, increased drinking and other negative behavior changes that may be related to an inability to cope with prolonged stress … a majority of adults (61%) experienced undesired weight changes — weight gain or loss — since the pandemic started, with 42% reporting they gained more weight than they intended. Of those, they gained an average of 29 pounds (the median amount gained was 15 pounds) and 10% said they gained more than 50 pounds, the poll found … Adults also reported unwanted changes in sleep and increased alcohol consumption. Two in 3 (67%) said they have been sleeping more or less than desired since the pandemic started. Nearly 1 in 4 adults (23%) reported drinking more alcohol to cope with their stress.”

Parents with children under age 18 have been especially impacted with 47% of mothers and 30% of fathers who still have children at home for remote learning reported their mental health has worsened. Among essential workers, 54% said they have “relied on a lot of unhealthy habits to get through the pandemic” — 29% reported worsened mental health and 75% wished they had more emotional support.

“We’ve been concerned throughout this pandemic about the level of prolonged stress, exacerbated by the grief, trauma and isolation that Americans are experiencing. This survey reveals a secondary crisis that is likely to have persistent, serious mental and physical health consequences for years to come,” said Arthur C. Evans Jr, Ph.D., APA’s chief executive officer.

I’ve been concerned for a year, too. I worked with children and families as a behavioral clinician, and I’ve been concerned about child abuse and domestic violence during this time. As a print journalist having worked in military towns, I noticed over long, holiday weekends, the number of domestic violence calls on the local police reports greatly increased. One police chief explained to me that it was because people would start drinking and would end up fighting by the end of the weekend. It hasn’t been widely reported, but I know the calls to Child Protective Services increased over the past year. How could they not with increased alcohol consumption, children going to remote school from home and parents working remotely from home? It’s a recipe for a stress disaster.

It hasn’t been much easier for single people living alone, like me. I’ve handled it better than most I’ve talked with. They’ve reported increased alcohol use, loneliness and feeling isolated. I remind them that living alone is an advantage because we don’t have the added stress of being locked up with others. For those used to being in social settings, however, the isolation and loneliness can be hard to deal with.

Then, there’s the stress of getting back to normal. I know people who are terrified of contracting COVID-19. They’re not alone … The APA survey found 49% of respondents feel uneasy about adjusting to in-person interaction once the pandemic ends — both adults who received a COVID-19 vaccine (48%) and those who had not received one (49%).

Others of my friends just want their freedom to travel and socialize again and are willing to do anything for it. However, the prevention has made some of my friends extremely sick — causing another stress.

Stress busters

Many experts believe that stress is inevitable in today’s society, and there’s basically no way to avoid it — only manage it. I understand this point of view, but I offer another one … Control your own mind and you can beat stress. This is so important that I wrote an entire chapter about this in my first book and plan to write a whole book about it.

“If you really want to be neurosis-free, self-fulfilled and in control of your own choices, if you really want to achieve present-moment happiness, you will need to apply the same kind of rigid application to the task of unlearning the self-defeating thinking you have learned up until now … In order to master this kind of fulfillment, you’ll need to repeat endlessly that your mind really is your own and that you are capable of controlling your own feelings,” wrote Dr. Wayne Dyer in Your Erogenous Zones.

Train your thinking. It is often said that “your thoughts create your reality.” Scientific evidence has shown that negative thinking can not only cause stress, but it can also cause disease in the body.

“You can make yourself ill with your thoughts, and by the same token, you can make yourself well by the use of a different and healing type of thought … To change your circumstances, first start thinking differently,” wrote Norman Vincent Peale in The Power of Positive Thinking. “Do not passively accept unsatisfactory circumstances, but form a picture in your mind of circumstance as they should be [as you want them to be]. Hold that picture, develop it firmly in all details, believe in it, pray about it, work at it and you can actualize it … Believe and succeed.”

I’m a firm believer in using gratitude to change your thinking. I wrote a whole book about it with a 45-day guided gratitude journal to help get you started. Being grateful for even the bod things has truly changed my life, and I practice it daily — especially when things aren’t going the way I want them to. By focusing on the gratitude and the good things, I instantly feel better and more positively.

Pay close attention to your attitudes and intentions. “Start each day by affirming peaceful, contented and happy attitudes, and your days will tend to be pleasant and successful. Such attitudes are active and definitive factors in creating satisfactory conditions,” Peale wrote.

Meditate & be in the present moment.  If you’re anything like me, meditating isn’t a natural or easy task because your mind is constantly racing in thought. Quieting it is like herding cats. It is possible, though. Using guided meditations and focusing on what the guide is saying is very helpful. Staying in the present moment is also helpful.

“All of this organized thinking keeps you from living your present moments,” Dr. Dyer wrote. “Turning your now into total fulfillment is the touchstone of effective living, and virtually all self-defeating behaviors (erogenous zones) are efforts at living in a moment other than the current one.”

I know, personally, that the reason we often don’t live in the present moment is because somewhere in life, the present moment was or is too scary to deal with. It can feel safer to live in the future where we daydream about creating the safety, security, prosperity and happiness we desire. Don’t get me wrong … this practice is not a bad thing. In fact, this is how you manifest the life you want. However, you will miss the gift of now if you refuse to live in the present.

The best advice I ever received from a therapist when I was studying psychology was to be fully in the moment when meeting with an old boyfriend that I hadn’t seen in nearly two decades. He told me to pay close attention to how the environment around me looked, to smell all the smells, pay attention to what the guy was saying and how he looked. I did that, and it worked. I was fully in the moment, and I couldn’t stop smiling. Try it for yourself.

Exercise. The deep limbic system of the brain is the part that is responsible for producing depression or having you feel hopeful. “[Exercise] releases endorphins that induce a sense of well-being … Exercise also increases blood flow throughout the brain which nourishes it so that it can function properly,” wrote Dr. Daniel Amen in Change Your Brain Change Your Life. “Exercise can also be very helpful in calming worries and increasing cognitive flexibility … [it raises] brain serotonin levels. In addition, exercise increases your energy levels and may distract you from the bad thoughts that may tend to loop.”

He recommends walking, running or cycling every day, plus doing an aerobic workout (to get the blood and oxygen flowing throughout the body) three times a week for at least 20 minutes. This is easy to incorporate into your life by taking a 15–30 minute walk at lunch or after dinner. I found lunch walks helpful when I was working in an office setting. They helped me process stress at work and clear my mind to finish the workday. An after-dinner walk with a partner can not only help you become more physically fit, but it can also aid in relationship bonding.

Dr. Dyer used to say, “Nature is therapy. If you’re feeling depressed, go walk barefoot in the grass.” Walking barefoot on the ground is called earthing and is known to be good for aligning the energy centers in the body. I went on a hike when the lockdown was beginning to be lifted in 2020, and being surrounded by trees and getting my heart rate up and sweating did my body and mind a world of good.

Create. We’ve all heard of Art Therapy as a treatment in psychology. Being creative has a way of shifting your thinking into a more positive, manifesting state — in my words and experience. Dr. Amen recommends singing, humming, learning to play an instrument, listening to classical music, dancing/rhythmic movement. “Song has long been shown to have healing qualities,” Dr. Amen wrote. “Sing wherever and whenever you can … It will have a healing effect on your temporal lobes and probably your limbic system, as well.” Your temporal lobes are responsible for memory, learning, emotional stability and socialization.

I sing to myself every day and have sang myself out of a funk many times in my life. I’ve also had dance parties by myself around my house during and after the lockdown. If you incorporate some form of dancing into your routine, that will have a double impact and also count as exercise, if done for at least 20 minutes.

Talk about it.  When I first began studying Substance Abuse Counseling (before earning my Psychology degree and studying counseling in graduate school), I had been exposed to research pointing to talk therapy being effective in treating stress and mental issues. Research published in July 2020 in the journal Cognitive Therapy and Research found that while medication works to dampen the stress response, it can also suppress symptoms and lessen the long-lasting effects. However, talk therapy (specifically cognitive therapy and cognitive-behavioral therapy) has been shown over the last 50 years to be just as effective as antidepressant medications (on average) in the treatment of nonpsychotic depression, and those treated to remission are less than half as likely to relapse following treatment termination.

I’ve been trained in CBT and have found it to be very effective when working with children and substance users. It is a modality that helps change your thinking and behaviors while giving you benchmarks to show progress and growth.

It’s always advised to seek help from a trained professional. However, whomever you choose to talk with should be someone in whom you trust and who will not discuss with others what you have shared. That’s why paying for services with a counselor or coach is usually the preferred method, and the one I recommend. While spiritual leaders, sponsors, mentors or friends aren’t trained in the modalities used in professional therapy, they could be a good listener who have life experience they can share that might help encourage you and allow you to get the negative feelings out of your head and body. Releasing the negativity and refocusing your thoughts on things that encourage you, make you feel good and give you hope and motivation are key in reducing and managing stress.

Laugh it off.  My grandparents used to say that laughter is good like medicine and would quote Proverbs 17:22, “A happy heart is good medicine and a joyful mind causes healing, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.” Science has proven this is true. Research has shown laughter to not only improve your mood, but it strengthens your immune system and combats stress — two things we need to focus on improving with the COVID-19 outbreak.

The University of St. Augustine for Health Sciences published that laughing can reduce the stress hormone cortisol that circulates throughout the body during peak stress periods. “Laughter can decrease cortisol levels by increasing your intake of oxygen and stimulating circulation throughout the body,” the university blog stated. (I recommend that you do not wear a mask when you laugh so that you can get the oxygen needed to actually reduce cortisol.) The university blog also stated, “Laughing increases the number of endorphins released in your body, fighting off stress and promoting a positive mood.”

There are many ways you can get your giggle on. Watching a funny movie or TV show is one way. Talking with friends, attending a comedy show or watching funny videos are all ways to produce laughter. I crack myself up all the time and make my own self laugh … that’s one of the best ways to laugh it up.

Like I say all the time, you have all the answers. Go to the kingdom within, do the things that fuel your body, mind and spirit, and work to keep your thoughts positive. Don’t let the stress get the best of you.

Do you have a question about life that you want Senée to answer? Leave it in the comments or email it to PrincessGuide@BecomingPublishing.com.

Senée Seale is a book author, mental health professional and life guide passionate about helping people create positive changes in their lives. Are you ready to start attracting positive things into your life through practicing daily affirmations? Get your free copy of The Princes Guide to Gratitude Affirmations. If you’d like to book a personal session with Senée, she’s accepting new clients.