October 2019 – The Princess Guide

Posted on October 30, 2019October 30, 2019 by seneeseale

Save yourself: I was literally run over by a truck … It’s witchcraft

This story is insane … The fact that it happened is off the charts. I’ll admit it. I’ve been guilty of saying before, “I feel like I’ve been run over by a truck.” I never knew what that felt like until one fateful day in September 2019.

I went to visit my mother in West Texas at the retirement building where she lives. It was super-hot that day—100 degrees-plus. I was getting my bags out of my car, and just wanted to sit down in the shade to drink some water and catch my breath. The sun was beating down were I was parked. So, I saw three vacant covered parking spaces nearby. I sat on the parking curb in the middle spot. I literally just sat down when a large, blue with silver chrome accents pickup truck pulled into the space to the right of me.

As quickly as the truck pulled in, it backed out. I was thinking that the person must have pulled into the wrong spot. What I was not prepared for was for the man to literally drive his truck on top of me! I was literally face to grill with his Ford emblem. My legs and lower body were completely under the truck!

I literally was thinking, “This cannot be happening to me right now! This man cannot be driving his truck on top of me!” Looking back on it, I’ve been in this position of denial many times in my life when bad things have happened in other areas, but never have I been pinned down by a huge pickup truck. I think I actually said out loud, “Are you kidding me right now? Are you actually running over me with your truck?”

The difference between other times in my life where I felt like situations and life were running me over is that this time I didn’t linger in that position. I didn’t feel sorry for myself and say, “Woe is me! Somebody rescue me!” No, I immediately went into action mode, crawled out from under that truck and confronted the driver. He was an old man, and he probably didn’t see me there … I don’t know how, but I had mercy on him and gave him the benefit of the doubt. I could tell that he was shaken by the event, too. I told him, “I’m not mad at you. I’m shaken up and my knees are scraped up, but I’m fine. You need to be more careful next time.”

Truthfully, he was just being used by dark forces to try and bring harm to me, but they failed. What I was immediately thinking was, “This is not normal! People don’t go around running over innocent bystanders!” I heard Frank Sinatra singing:

‘Cause it’s witchcraft. Wicked witchcraft.

I got my stuff upstairs to my mom’s apartment, and told her what happened. There was a deliverance service going on at her church that night that we weren’t planning to go to (and I wasn’t dressed to attend seeing that I was wearing shorts and sleeveless shirt—not my normal church attire), but we jumped in the car and went.

Her ministry partner who is a deliverance minister agreed that this was a spiritual, witchcraft attack, and she prayed over me.

I began fasting and praying with Brother Kay Broachie in 2015. He’s a deliverance minister in Maryland who is originally from Africa. He talks a lot about how to pray against witchcraft attacks, and he says that we have the power to send every curse or witchcraft attack back on the person who originated it—whether they are the person who cast the spell or the person who paid to have it done. He calls it the Return to Sender prayer, and instructs you to pray, “Every evil arrow that has been aimed toward me, I return it to the head of the sender.”

Psalm 91:5 says, “You will not fear the terror of the night, nor the arrow that flies by day.”

“An arrow is an injurious weapon that has capacity to cause a damage or death on a living object,” explained Bishop Dr. Julius Soyinka in a sermon. “Spiritual arrows are invisible attacks from the kingdom of darkness to specific or unspecified targets. Specific targets are those that the enemy intended to harm with their arrows, while the unspecified are those that were not intended by the enemy but the arrow got to them by accident or by coincident.”

Bro. Kay also says that you have the right to give back every evil plan and scheme that has or is being plotted against you.

King David wrote, “Since they hid their net for me without cause and without cause dug a pit for me, may ruin overtake them by surprise—may the net they hid entangle them, may they fall into the pit, to their ruin,” Psalm 35: 7–8.

Since this event, I pray every day that the arrows that have been aimed toward me be sent back on the head of the sender and that every pit that has been dug for me, the digger will fall into to their own ruin.

Christ told us that the Kingdom of Heaven/Kingdom of God is within. You are powerful. You have everything you need inside you to save yourself. You don’t need to go looking outside yourself for saving.

I’ll leave you with this thought: It’s important to armor up every single day so that when life—or a literal Ford pickup truck—runs over you, you can save yourself and not be paralyzed in disbelief.

“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore, put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God,” Ephesians 6:10–18.

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Posted on October 25, 2019 by seneeseale

Fab Friday Flashback: What costume are you wearing?

Just for the record, I do not dress up for Halloween or celebrate it at all. (I’ll write about that another time.) If I do anything, I wear my crown and am my authentic self. Which brings us to today’s post … Since Halloween is less than a week away, it’s a good time to flashback to 2014 and talk about your costumes …

When I was a little girl, I loved Halloween because it was the one day of the year when you can be anyone you want. However, as an adult I deeply value authenticity. The people who I admire most all live as their true selves no matter who likes it. (I admire this trait, but it also infuriates me when dealing with behaviors that need to change because it can manifest as stubbornness and unwillingness to change.)

When I was a teenager, I held a state office in a national student leadership association and became aware of the term “personality masking.” This occurs when a person doesn’t feel accepted enough to be their authentic self.

Feel Happiness gives this advice for taking off your mask and living authentically:

Do you understand the frame? The “frame” of an interaction is the unwritten context behind it. In other words, it is the roles that you and everyone you interact with are playing. Understand the frame, and act appropriately.
Do you feel “off?” You can “feel” the incongruency of your social mask most of the time. Since it drains your energy, it might manifest itself as a feeling of exhaustion, or just general discomfort. When you notice this feeling, try to drop the social mask and act congruent (in alignment with your values).
What do you like about yourself? Write a list of the fantastic things you have to offer. They won’t be things that everyone will value, but that doesn’t matter. They just have to be things that you like about yourself.
Accept yourself Flaws and all. You are who you are. The person you are right now is OK. All the good things and the bad things about you make you unique and should be cherished.
Stop judging other people Pay attention to the negative qualities in other people, and you will only find more negative qualities in yourself. Just as you’ve accepted yourself, you need to accept other people for the way they are.
Step out of your comfort zone Taking off your social mask will feel uncomfortable at first. When you start doing the things you are afraid of, your comfort zone expands. It becomes easier.
You aren’t the only person with issues Everyone has issues. Everyone has insecurities. If you act like your true self, people won’t think less of you. Instead, they’ll be wondering what you think of them.
Don’t go too far Some people have the exact opposite problem of wearing a social mask. These are the people who share every detail of their lives with you, even if you don’t know them well. Don’t share too much about yourself. Remember to consider the social context that you are in.

Masks and costumes are for Halloween. Enjoy dressing up, but spend the rest of the year being your true self … It looks great on you!

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Posted on October 23, 2019October 13, 2019 by seneeseale

Trust yourself: Is it rejection or protection?

I opened my email one day a few months ago to receive a message from a company that was looking for a news reporter with my skills and three years of experience. The message was to tell me that, “After reviewing your resume and submissions the hiring team has decided not to move forward. We wish you all the best.” First of all, I have 23 years of experience, great writing clips and national and international exposure. Secondly, this is a direct copy and paste of their email, and they are missing a comma in their first sentence. But what would someone with 23 years of writing and editing experience know? I mean, after all, they are the ones sending the “rejection letter.”

Honestly, this isn’t the first email like this I’ve received, and it probably won’t be the last. My initial reaction is always outrage. But this time, it turned into laughter … They have no idea who they just rejected or what they will be missing!

I’ve lived life long enough to know that not everything that looks like rejection actually is. So many times in life, the sting of rejection — be it from a job, love interest or friend — can be so strong and debilitating that we can’t see it’s actually protection disguised as rejection.

There was a time in my life when I would mourn the loss of a person or opportunity for so long, thinking my life was over and nothing good would come to replace that perceived loss. I’ve recently looked back over my life at events that I thought were monumental — you know, those grandiose moments that everyone dreams about like getting that dream job or marrying that forever mate — and realized that they were only lessons I needed to learn to push me into the direction of what would truly make me happy.

I’ve realized a lot about myself in the last year, and one thing I know for certain is that my creativity is completely shut down when I’m working in prison-like office conditions where I am monitored like an inmate and expected to churn out creative material like a robot. I’m more like Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City … Not the writing a sex column part, but the work from home/coffee shop and touring museums and department stores when needing inspiration to meet deadlines part.

Knowing this information about myself and how I work best is very helpful when I feel the need to try and conform to society’s norms. I’ve NEVER fit it, and I’m fine with that. It’s other people who have a problem with it. Maybe someday I’ll feel comfortable telling you the realizations I’ve had about who I am and where I came from. But for now, just know that I’m a princess from another place, and we don’t fit in on purpose!

As I mentioned earlier, I’ve been looking back over my life at all the experiences I’ve had. I’ve allowed myself to feel the love and joy in particular moments of my life and be grateful that I was honored to experience them. I’ve also looked at the deep, deep rejection I’ve felt from people and realized that if they had not rejected me, I would have been in a miserable position, at the very least. In some cases, it could have cost me my life.

It’s taken a lot of internal work to get to this place in my awakening process, but I’m so grateful that I can see that the rejection I thought would kill me was actually protection from something much worse — jobs, people, men … you name it! It becomes much easier to look at rejection through this lens.

No matter what you have encountered, just know that you were made for great things! You have seeds of greatness within you … Let them out. I love this song It’s amazing by Jem and listen to it all the time to remind myself of who I am and what I am worth:

And I know, ’cause I’ve been there before, Knocking on the doors with rejection (rejection); And you’ll see, ’cause if it’s meant to be; Nothing can compare to deserving your dream. It’s amazing. It’s amazing, all that you can do. It’s amazing. Makes my heart sing; Now it’s up to you.

What protection disguised as rejection in your life are you grateful for?

Posted on October 18, 2019October 13, 2019 by seneeseale

Fab Friday Flashback: Leaders prepare for their opportunity to shine. Are you ready for yours?

It’s my birthday weekend, and also my grandfather’s. As you’ll read below, he was a huge Dallas Cowboys fan, and that’s the main reason I love the team so much. He was a simple man in a lot of ways, but a man of great integrity and wisdom. I like to think that we’re a lot alike, and I strive every day to live a purposeful life, as he did. It’s been a tough few weeks to be a Cowboys fan, but the season isn’t over, and as long as you’re breathing, there’s still time to shine … Are you ready for your shot to be a leader? Let’s flashback to 2016 …

In case you haven’t been able to tell ― I’m a huge Dallas Cowboys fan. You could say I was born a Cowboys fan. My grandfather who raised me was a big fan, and everyone in my family are fans (except for my biological father who obviously didn’t last long in the family). I was recently watching a documentary program in Dallas called Deep Blue, and they were telling the story of how Jason Garrett became the new head coach in the middle of the 2010-2011 season.

I was struck by something former Quarterback Jon Kitna said, “You never know how your opportunity (to be a leader) is coming, but you better be ready when it does come. And the time you think you’re not getting that opportunity, you’re caught off guard. I was watching (Garrett) going, ‘This is unbelievable.’ Clearly, he’s been prepared for this for years ahead of time. Clearly, he had a file of ‘when my chance comes’ with things he had gained from Bill Parcels, from Jimmy Johnson and from Tom Cofflin all these coaches, these great coaches he’d been around … It’s like they were all standing there in the person of one person totally prepared, didn’t stutter, didn’t pause … I just remember (being) just in awe of this guy.”

The documentary showed that Garrett was named head coach on Monday afternoon, and by the time the players arrived for their Wednesday morning meeting, Garrett had inspirational signs printed and hung all around the training facility at Valley Ranch. It was if he was taking instructions from God’s playbook, “And the Lord answered me and said, ‘Write the vision and make it plain upon tables that he may run that reads it,’” Habakkuk 2:2. I think it’s important to be surrounded by inspirational quotes — I have them all over my space.

One thing I learned studying Cognitive Psychology is that you need to employ several sensory inputs to cement something into your memory. So just looking at something isn’t enough. You need to read it out loud, then meditate on it — I’m not talking about sitting cross legged on the floor chanting “Ohm;” I’m talking about really thinking about what you are reading and coming up with ways to apply it to your daily life.

Preparation and inspiration weren’t the only things Garrett employed immediately. He also stressed a technique that’s very popular right now in the psychotherapy world.

“One of the things I always talk to the players about is embracing the moment, embracing the day,” Garrett said in his initial press conference as head coach. (There goes that theme of present-mindedness again!)

Mark Sanborn writing for Entrepeneur.com offers these ways to become a great leader:

Keep promises, period. Never make promises you’re not sure you can keep. Nothing kills your credibility quicker than a breached promise or unfulfilled expectation. Sometimes keeping promises can be challenging, if not downright painful. This commitment will develop discipline and integrity.
Dress to influence. Don’t dress to impress, dress to influence. That means making sure your appearance is consistent with your personal and professional brand. Begin by asking yourself how a leader with your aspirations should appear to others. And don’t limit appearance to just yourself. Apply it to your company.
Treat your team as you expect them to treat customers. Being the leader doesn’t give you a free pass to indulge your base instincts. The way you treat people is a barometer to everyone on your team.
Show your commitment to personal growth. There are ultimately only two ways to grow your business: grow yourself and grow your team. As you and your team improve, so do service levels, operational efficiency and everything else.
Ask — rather than wait — for feedback. Some leaders react to unsolicited feedback as criticism and miss an opportunity to learn. But waiting for your employees to become brave enough to offer you feedback is a risky proposition. Don’t ask employees what they like or dislike about you. You’ll get better information by asking: “In your opinion, what might I do to become a more effective leader?” Listen for actionable behavior. If someone says you’d be more effective by communicating more clearly, ask for an example of when you haven’t, so you’ll understand what he or she means.

While becoming a head coach of an NFL team is a big reason to be prepared to be a leader, leadership starts at home. Whether you’re raising a family, teaching a class, heading a group or starting your own business, these same strategies can be used in everyday life.

Posted on October 16, 2019October 16, 2019 by seneeseale

Honor yourself: Wear a crown

It’s my birthday week. Nearly two decades ago, I bought my first tiara. The lady in the store told me it was a good time because they always stock up on them for the little girls at Halloween. I was buying it to wear on my birthday in October. Ever since, I have worn one on my birthday and any time I’m feeling less than royal to remind myself of who I truly am—a princess of high, royal, moral character and integrity. Of course, I also wear one when I’m doing an appearance or book signing for The Princess Guide. When I’m in a mood to not be as easily recognized, I wear my crown ring as a reminder.

I’ve shared this story before, but in case you haven’t read it, let me tell it again because it’s very appropriate here.

My whole life, I’ve had children point at me and call me a princess or Princess Barbie. Strangers have called me a princess and a Southern Belle. It’s happened a lot, but I didn’t put the pieces together until a few years ago.

One landmark day in 2016, I was driving in my car on the interstate, but it was as if I was in a trance. I vaguely remember driving, but what I do remember are the words that were being downloaded to me the whole time. The information translated to me informed me that I was a princess from another dimension before I came to this earth, and that I was deeply loved and cared for there. I had servants to help me and do things for me, but they did it not because they had to, but because they wanted to—because they loved me. I was informed that I wanted to know what it was like to be a peasant, so I came here to experience this, but also to overcome it and help other people. I was told that being in this life doesn’t change who I really am—it’s like being on vacation; who you are doesn’t change because your location changes.

I’ve had many downloads in the last year that have made a little more sense of this information, and I’ve come to understand that being here is basically going to college incognito. (That explains why it’s been so hard to get my messages out into the world because I’m a nobody here.) I’m hear to learn before I go home to start my career (after I pass on to the next density).

I’ve had a hard time accepting all this information. I’ve been so mistreated in this life by the very people who were supposed to love and cherish me the most. I was really afraid to tell anyone about this experience. However, the few people I did tell this story to all said basically the same thing, “Duh! Tell me something I don’t know!” My trusted advisor said, “Of course you are! You’re a daughter of the King of Kings, Lord of Lords, and the Most High God!” I’ve heard that my whole life, but it didn’t start resonating with me until a few years ago.

In his book Letting Go, Dr. David Hawkins shed some light into this matter, “As a general rule, therefore, people who are carrying the consciousness of apathy bring poverty circumstances into their lives, and those with a prosperity consciousness bring abundance into their lives.”

This is the time of year that I evaluate what has happened in the past 12 months, and I set goals for the future. This has been a very hard year for me—in terms of owning my power in the workplace and calling my own shots in my career. It may be scary, but you always have a choice and can make changes when something isn’t working in your life (see No. 5 & 6 below). I did that this year and got back on my path to purpose. It hasn’t been easy, but I’ve experienced more peace, excitement and passion in what I’m doing in my own business.

I’m now writing books and obviously blogging again. I’m taking on coaching/consulting clients who want assistance in working on their relationships and mental health. I’m working with clients to edit and publish their own books and doing copywriting for clients. And, I’m creating crochet items again and selling them on Princess Guide Curations along with treasure hunt finds I come across at vintage stores. (See all the links above to contact me if you’re interested in working with me in any of these areas.)

I’ve had to learn not to let anyone take my crown and lure me off my throne—meaning: I have to do what is best for me and not allow others to mistreat me whether it be in friendship relationships, work relationships or romantic relationships.

So, what things can you do to honor yourself? Relationship expert Dr. Margaret Paul gave the Huffington Post these suggestions in 2015 that still ring true today:

1. Listen within to your own feelings. Many people easily tune into others’ feelings yet have no idea what they feel. If you ignore a child’s feelings, that child will feel unloved. Ignoring your own feelings has the same result — your inner child feels rejected, abandoned and unloved by you.

2. Be compassionate with your feelings. If you judge your feelings, telling yourself you are wrong for having them, your inner child will feel rejected and abandoned by you. If you are kind, gentle, tender, understanding and accepting of your feelings, your inner child will feel loved by you.

3. Be open to learning about what your feelings are telling you. Just as an actual child feels loved when you are compassionately interested in why he or she is hurting, your inner child will feel loved when you explore what your feelings are telling you. All feelings are informational. Just as physical pain alerts you to a problem that needs attention, so does emotional pain. Painful feelings are telling you that you are abandoning yourself, or that someone is being unloving to you, or to themselves or to others, or that a situation is not good for you. Compassionately attending to your feelings, learning what they are telling you, and then taking action to remedy the situation, will make you feel loved.

4. Create a solid connection with a spiritual source of love, wisdom and comfort. Love is not a feeling we generate from our mind. It comes from the heart when our heart is open to our source of love. When you open to learning with your higher power about loving yourself and others, love flows into your heart and you feel loved.

5. Choose to be around loving people. We don’t always have a choice — such as in work relationships — but when we do have a choice — such as in personal relationships — choosing to be around caring, supportive and accepting people will make you feel loved. If, when you have a choice, you consistently engage with unkind, judgmental or abusive people, the message you are sending to yourself is that you are not worth loving.

6. Take loving actions for yourself around others. When you are around someone who is being unkind, speak up for yourself, letting the person know that you don’t like being treated that way, and then either open to learning about what is going on, or lovingly disengage from the interaction. Allowing others to treat you badly sends a message to your inner child that he or she is not worth loving.

7. Take care of your body, your time, your space and your finances. You will feel loved and lovable when you feed yourself healthy food, and get exercise and sleep. When you ignore your health, you are giving yourself the message that you are not worth loving. When you respect your own and others’ time and space, you are letting yourself know that you are worth it. When you overspend, putting yourself in unnecessary debt, you are not taking loving care of yourself, and your inner child will feel scared, alone and unloved. Just as an actual child needs to feel safe regarding the necessities of life, your inner child needs to feel the same way.

8. Find work you love. Since work takes up a big part of your day, finding or creating work that fulfills you is vitally important. If you continue to force yourself to stay at jobs you hate, the message to yourself is that you are not worth doing whatever it is you need to do to create a fulfilling work life.

9. Create balance. We need balance in our life to feel loved and lovable. We need time to work and time to rest and rejuvenate. We also need time to nurture our body and soul through activities that bring us joy.

Loving yourself and practicing those loving actions will not only help you get healthy self-esteem that no one can take away from you, but it will also give you the skills you need to love others when the right relationship comes into your life.

Posted on October 11, 2019October 11, 2019 by seneeseale

Fab Friday Flashback: Making your mental health a priority

To celebrate Mental Health Awareness Month, I thought it would be fitting to revisit this blog post from 2016. I was having a conversation yesterday with my trusted advisor who reminded me of all my mental health, psychology and counseling education, training and experience as a Behavioral Clinician and designations as a Qualified Mental Health Professional and Certified Christian Counselor. She said that I should start offering coaching/consulting services in addition to my writing about relationships and mental health. If you’re interested in working with me one-on-one or would like me to speak at your group or event, let’s talk about how I can help you. Now, let’s flashback to the Summer of 2016 …

We’ve reached the unofficial start of Summer and everyone is talking about getting swimsuit ready, but what about your brain health and mental health?

You may be asking, “Senée, what does mental health have to do with relationships and recovery?” It has everything to do with them.

When your brain is healthy, your body functions properly, your relationships are healthier and you’re more capable of achieving recovery.

“People who are emotionally healthy are in control of their emotions and their behavior,” explained HelpGuide.org. “They are able to handle life’s challenges, build strong relationships and recover from setbacks. But just as it requires effort to build or maintain physical health, so it is with mental and emotional health.”

One major component of good mental health is resiliency. The Mayo Clinic described it as “being able to adapt to life’s misfortunes and setbacks … Resilience won’t make your problems go away — but resilience can give you the ability to see past them, find enjoyment in life and better handle stress.”

I mentioned in a previous post that I’ve recently lost 60+ pounds. While I’ve been focusing on improving my health, the weight loss has been effortless and a great side effect. However, I’ve made my mental health a priority working with a trusted advisor on life issues, fasting and praying weekly with a group in addition to attending church regularly and praying daily (all day, every day — it’s an ongoing conversation with God that I believe enhances my relationship with my Higher Power).

The Apostle Paul gave us some great advice for how to tame our minds. “Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything, by prayer and petition (definite requests), with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God. And God’s peace which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. For the rest, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them],” Philippians 4:6-8 AMP

In addition to this advice, The University of Michigan offers these suggestions for improving your mental health:

Value yourself — Treat yourself with kindness and respect, and avoid self-criticism. Make time for your hobbies and favorite projects, or broaden your horizons.
Take care of your body — Taking care of yourself physically can improve your mental health.
Surround yourself with good people — People with strong family or social connections are generally healthier than those who lack a support network. Make plans with supportive family members and friends, or seek out activities where you can meet new people.
Give of yourself — Volunteer your time and energy to help someone else. You’ll feel good about doing something tangible to help someone in need — and it’s a great way to meet new people.
Learn how to deal with stress — Like it or not, stress is a part of life. Practice good coping skills —exercise, take a nature walk, play with your pet or try journal writing as a stress reducer. Also, remember to smile and see the humor in life. Research shows that laughter can boost your immune system, ease pain, relax your body and reduce stress.
Quiet your mind — Relaxation exercises and prayer can improve your state of mind and outlook on life. In fact, research shows that meditation may help you feel calm and enhance the effects of therapy.
Set realistic goals — Decide what you want to achieve and write down the steps you need to realize your goals. Aim high, but be realistic and don’t over-schedule. You’ll enjoy a tremendous sense of accomplishment and self-worth as you progress toward your goal.
Break up the monotony — Although our routines make us more efficient and enhance our feelings of security and safety, a little change of pace can perk up a tedious schedule.
Avoid alcohol and other drugs — Keep alcohol use to a minimum and avoid other drugs. Sometimes people use alcohol and other drugs to “self-medicate” but in reality, alcohol and other drugs only aggravate problems.
Get help when you need it — Seeking help is a sign of strength — not a weakness. And it is important to remember that treatment is effective. People who get appropriate care can recover from mental illness and substance abuse disorders and lead full, rewarding lives.

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Posted on October 9, 2019October 9, 2019 by seneeseale

Know yourself: Who do you think you are?

When I was a little girl, I loved the song by Diana Ross, Do you know. The lyrics still sit with me:

Do you know where you’re going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to? Do you know?

So often, we really don’t know ourselves. We have no idea what we really want or who we are. I had coffee with a lady a few weeks ago. As we were discussing my first book and the plans I have for upcoming books, she asked me, “What is it you want for your life? Do you know the desires of your heart? Most people don’t, and that’s why they don’t get them.”

I do not have that problem! I know exactly what I want. And through the process of writing the books I’m working on, (the next one being released is The Princess Guide to Loving Yourself First which is now available for preorder on my website) I’m very clear on who I am and what I want in life.

Now don’t get me wrong, it didn’t happen overnight or all at once. I’ve been on this journey — intensely — for the past five years, but the majority of my growth has happened in the last several months. I’ve come to the conclusion that nothing outside ourselves changes us — not a person, not God, nothing and no one. This is a big change in thinking for me because I have spent the vast majority of my life waiting, wanting and longing for something or someone outside myself to rescue me, make me happy and change my life for the better.

I remember about a decade ago, I was working as a Web Copywriter for a large retail company after struggling with my freelance career to get a steady income. One of my friends I worked with drove me home after work one day. As we pulled up to the front entrance of the high rise where I was living, she said to me, “Look at what YOU did! You live in this beautiful place in this upscale neighborhood, and YOU made all this happen!” My response was, “I didn’t do it. God did it.” I was still looking outside myself, had no confidence in my ability to co-create anything and took no credit for my part in manifesting a dream I had since I was a little girl. (I seriously wanted to live in that building, in that neighborhood since I was a little girl.)

A friend of mine told me the other day, “You need to come out of the tower, Rapunzel!” A few days letter, my best friend said almost the exact same thing. They were right, but I know that the intense changes I’ve been going through — to the point that strangers are stopping and telling me how beautiful I am, and how I light up a room when I walk in, or people I know telling me how I’m glowing and my countenance has changed for the positive — have happened because of all the alone time I’ve been spending with myself. Not only have I gotten to know myself really well, but I’ve become a co-creator with my Higher Power/God/Creator/Source/Universe. I am divine. I have God within me. Therefore, I can be — and have been —a co-creator with God to manifest what I want in my life to help others and fulfill my mission. When I do the inside work, everything in my life changes for the better.

This is why I’m so excited to tell you about Dr. Sue Morter. She is a renowned international speaker and founder of the Morter Institute for Bio-Energetics, an organization committed to teaching individuals self-healing techniques and a new approach to life based on Quantum Science. Dr. Sue is the host of Healing Matrix on Gaia TV. She has also been featured in several documentary films, including The Opus, The Cure Is…, Discover the Gift, and Femme. She is also the author of The Energy Codes ®: A 7-Step System to Awaken Your Spirit, Heal Your Body, and Live Your Best Life.

The exciting part is that she’s inviting you to a FREE webinar where you will learn The 3 Secrets to Syncing Up Your Super Powers for Freedom, Flow & Fulfillment.

“A life of true fulfillment and freedom is possible … once you know who you truly are,” said Dr. Sue.

Her message really resonates with me because she’s talking about what I’m currently writing about in my books.

During this free webinar, you’ll learn how to:

Recognize the REAL you (Hint: It’s not who you think you are),
Break free from negative and limiting thoughts and live in an expanded state,
Tap the Universal flow of energy running through you,
Change the stories of your past opening you up to greater love and fulfillment,
Heal your life on every level — mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually,
Experience deeper and more fulfilling relationships,
Experience vibrant health and greater vitality (using a tool you already possess) and
Live your life in ease and flow for total fulfillment.

What could be better than living life with flow and ease? That’s a trick question because we all know there is nothing better, and I invite you to register now so you can get started. Reserve your spot or the webinar.

Posted on October 4, 2019October 4, 2019 by seneeseale

In infidelity, who’s responsible?

All of Dallas — and much of the world — has been riveted by the murder trial of former Dallas police officer Amber Guyger. She was arrested and charged with murdering a man who she thought had broken into her apartment late one night in September 2018. It turns out that she was at the wrong apartment.

Early in the trial, it came out that she was having a sexual affair with her police partner who was a married man. Even though I rarely allow myself to watch the news anymore because it makes me feel so negatively, I just happened to watch her testimony in which Guyger said that she had ended the relationship because, “I knew it was morally wrong, and I didn’t want to hurt anyone.”

When it comes to infidelity — in a marriage or committed relationship — who is responsible? I have always said that it is the person in the marriage or committed relationship because that person is the one who made legal/spiritual/emotional vows and promises to another person. If they are unhappy in that relationship, then it is their responsibility to end that relationship before entering another one. We don’t often see that happen anymore, however.

While I heard each of them try to distance themselves from each other during this trial, this is a good time to take a look at signs of a healthy relationship. So, how do you know if your relationship is full of real love or if you may be in an unhealthy, enmeshed relationship? Dr. Tim Clinton offers these 10 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship. Do you …

Close your eyes to irresponsible behavior?
Keep secrets or tolerate abuse?
Sacrifice to cover up someone else’s mistakes?
Cater to a lazy person’s whims?
Cave in to an angry person’s demands?
Make excuses?
Justify bad behavior?
Accept the blame for something you never did?
Enable an addiction?
Lie to yourself or others?

“If you answered ‘yes’ to many of these statements, it’s likely that you may be stuck in an enmeshed relationship,” he wrote. “These relationships leave a legacy of heartbreak and manipulation. But that legacy can be changed if we are willing to open our eyes and take an honest look at ourselves and our relationships.”

Maybe it’s the Mental Health Professional in me, but it appeared by Guyger’s statement about her relationship with her partner that she was taking the blame which is No. 8 on this list. I can understand this behavior because I used to display it all the time in my relationships. I’m a natural peacemaker, and I wanted peace in my relationships. So, I often took the blame when I was not to blame. A person who truly loves themselves first (the topic of the next book I’m releasing available for preorder on my website) sets and enforces healthy boundaries and doesn’t accept blame that is not theirs.

Cheating on a partner or spouse is classically and purely ego — or Edging God Out, as Dr. Wayne Dyer often said. The key to overcoming the ego is love — pure, true, real love. It makes sense with the Bible informing us that God is love.

“Lovingness is a feature of your natural state, and your ego isn’t part of that state,” Dr. Dyer wrote in his book Being in Balance. “Ego dominates because you’ve separated yourself from your God-self, the loving self that came here from a place of perfectly Divine unconditional love. You’ve carried this ego idea of your own self-importance, your need to be right, for so long that you’ve deluded yourself into believing that the ego-self is who you are … By allowing this illusion to be the dominant force, you’ve created, through your ego-centered self, a heavy imbalance in your life.”

I have to keep going back to our responsibility in our lives — we are co-creators with God and can manifest anything we become focused on. I love what Dr. Sue Morter has to say about this, “Your life is YOUR movie. You are writing the story, playing the part of the main character, and have the power to decide and direct how everything will go.”

I’m so excited to tell you about her new eBook The Top 3 Mistakes That Keep You from Fulfillment & Flow, where she shares her proven system that heals lives on every level — mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

If you’ve been seeking a life where you feel complete freedom, total fulfillment and the joy of living in the flow, then this is eBook is for you.

In case you don’t know her, Dr. Sue is a renowned international speaker and founder of the Morter Institute for Bio-Energetics, an organization committed to teaching individuals self-healing techniques and a new approach to life based on Quantum Science. She is the host of Healing Matrix on Gaia TV. She has also been featured in several documentary films, including The Opus, The Cure Is…, Discover the Gift, and Femme. Dr. Sue is the author of The Energy Codes ®: A 7-Step System to Awaken Your Spirit, Heal Your Body, and Live Your Best Life.

Being in a broken or unbalanced relationship can affect every aspect of your life … I know because I wrote my first book about it! Dr. Sue’s eBook will help you begin the healing process, and it’s only free for a limited time. So, make sure you get your copy now and learn the Top 3 Mistakes That Keep You From Fulfillment & Flow.

Posted on October 2, 2019October 2, 2019 by seneeseale

Heal yourself: The holistic healing journey begins with you

If you know me personally or have read my blog posts, then you know I’m big on holistic healing practices and “old-fashioned” remedies. (My grandparents used them on us, and they worked.)

I’ve written recently about my journey of healing my vision. Over the last four years, I’ve completely changed my diet and began taking supplements. The most immediate (and dramatic) change I — and the world — could see was a 70-pound weight loss. Regaining my vision has been a much slower process. While I’ve seen fireflies for the first time in decades, have seen more definition in clouds and have noticed some movement in my peripheral vision, I haven’t had a major breakthrough yet — meaning I still have little to no night vision and need to use magnifiers and glasses to read.

In September, I was blessed with the opportunity to have a stem cell therapy treatment. I’ve heard about many great health improvements from family members and acquaintances. I’ve also seen some great testimonials online from people diagnosed with the same eye disease I was diagnosed with. The procedure itself was very easy and quick, but the recovery process has been really rough for me.

I did every positive thing I knew to do. I fasted for 20 hours prior to the treatment. I’ve been eating a lot of salads and focusing on vegetables and protein. I’ve been juicing carrots and drinking black coffee (both prescribed in the beginning of my holistic journey by a doctor) along with water and green tea. However, I’ve been having weird side-effects including burning, itchy, swollen, flaky eye lids, dizziness when wearing my glasses (but I can’t read without them) and weakness/low energy. My guess is that my body is detoxing (the stem cell nurse agreed), and I’m just trying to ride it out because I know this stuff must come out of me and not be masked.

I’ve been on the holistic healing bandwagon since 1999 when I was working at my first newspaper in Tyler, Texas and got the flu during Thanksgiving week. A family friend who also lived there took me to see a holistic practitioner. He did Kinesiology (muscle testing) on me, and I was a believer. Kinesiology tests many areas of the body including the organs, looks at how the body is affected by food and other substances, and it’s even used by psychologists to reveal a person’s unconscious belief systems and determine how well one handles emotional, mental and spiritual stress.

I’ve realized during this process that the reason I love holistic healing so much is because I’m being the co-creator and manifesting my health. I’m not looking for something or someone outside of me to fix or heal me … I am working with the Creator of this body to heal it.

This is why I’m so excited to tell you about Dr. Sue Morter’s powerful e-book called The Top 3 Mistakes That Keep You from Fulfillment & Flow, In this book, she shares her proven system that heals lives on every level — mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. If you’ve been seeking a life where you feel complete freedom, total fulfillment and the joy of living in the flow, then this is an e-book you must read.

In case you don’t know her, Dr. Sue is a renowned international speaker and founder of the Morter Institute for Bio-Energetics, an organization committed to teaching individuals self-healing techniques and a new approach to life based on Quantum Science. She is the host of Healing Matrix on Gaia TV. She has also been featured in several documentary films, including The Opus, The Cure Is…, Discover the Gift and Femme, and Dr. Sue is the author of The Energy Codes ®: A 7-Step System to Awaken Your Spirit, Heal Your Body, and Live Your Best Life.

Dr. Sue is giving her e-book away for free for a limited time. So make sure you get your copy now and learn the Top 3 Mistakes That Keep You From Fulfillment & Flow.

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